Fake It Till You Make It!
It’s a really mundane saying, and more often than not, people disregard it as translating to ‘overconfidence’. Which is utterly wrong and unfair. (But only in regard to your attitude! Not when you are building an empire over a product that doesn’t actually work; Theranos). Just make sure you are doing it for you and not harming anyone in the process.
In this article I will review the 5 tips titled ‘Amal Totkay’ which are dedicated to developing a growth mindset. One of which, as you would have guessed by now, is ‘Fake It Till You Make It’. It is actually the very last tip. The other tips are:
- Self-Talk
- Get out of your comfort zone
- Create new habits
- Ask people help
- Fake it till you make it
The first tip is cool, unless you are experiencing symptoms of psychosis and the voice that talks back tells you to.. well, end yourself. Anything besides such a voice would do. This tip does not really work for me, for I have very recent experience with the former mentioned voice.
So, going to the next tip, getting out of your comfort zone, it is really crucial if one wants to grow. All your life you are gaining experience, that is a given. The experience curve goes up with time, there is no doubting that, but whether that curve be a linear curve or an exponential, that depends on you. On how you approach these experiences. Here, having a habit (the third tip) of stepping out of your comfort zone, taking risks, going on adventures, being spontaneous, makes the curve grow exponentially and you flourish. The more you learn, the more you grow.
While you are taking risks and going on adventures, you need someone reliable to be there for you, just in case. Everyone needs to have a support system, consisting of people they can rely upon. They can ask for help, because truly understanding the fact that ‘Nobody’s perfect’, helps realize that a person can not be successful standing solely on his own. I have had a difficult experience in asking for help, since childhood I have been taught to be self sufficient, it worked well but gave me so many stressors that have left me depending upon meds to function properly. Now, even though I am reluctant, I do ask for help and I just do it. This ‘Just do it’ attitude has helped me in being confident, since I have started asking for feedback as well. It has relieved me of tremendous stress that I was carrying, while being unaware of.
And confidence matters, your attitude towards life is what defines you, if my support group reads this they’ll taunt me to death by telling me how I should apply this to myself and change my attitude. I am a pessimist. I am trying on resolving this and being a realist, I can’t jump to optimism right a way. SMART goals. It has to be realistic. Since I have changed my perspective to being a realist, I have gotten things done that I would not have considered doing earlier. Having the correct attitude to tackle a problem really matters in being successful and to grow.
All in all, these AMAL Totkay prove to be very vital for a person aiming to develop a growth mindset. I particularly love ‘Fake It Till You Make It’, because confidence in the outlook seeps in and you find that you are actually capable of so much more than you give yourself credit for. For me these tips encompass the essential ways in which a person gains the crucial world view necessary to have a better survival chance in this world, through which they can live a quality life and share it with their loved ones, by keeping a healthy mind and a growth mindset.
